Category: Family Law and Custody

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Proving Fitness: What Judges Actually Look for in Custody Battles

Proving Fitness: What Judges Actually Look for in Custody Battles

I watched a client lose their entire claim in the first ten minutes of a deposition because they ignored one simple rule about silence. We were in a windowless conference room that smelled of burnt coffee and cheap industrial cleaner. My client, a father who had spent months preparing, felt the need to fill every…
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How to Deal with an Ex Who Calls the Police During Pickups

How to Deal with an Ex Who Calls the Police During Pickups

The smell of burnt coffee is the only thing keeping this office grounded while I review the wreckage of another family law case gone sideways. You are here because your ex-partner has decided to weaponize the municipal police department during a standard 6 PM Friday pickup. This is not about safety. It is about creating…
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The Best Way to Document Your Spouse's Volatile Behavior

The Best Way to Document Your Spouse’s Volatile Behavior

I watched a client lose their entire claim in the first ten minutes of a deposition because they ignored one simple rule about silence. We were sitting in a sterile conference room in downtown Chicago, the smell of industrial cleaner and stale coffee thick in the air. My client, a woman who had suffered years…
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The Real Problems with Shared Custody in High-Conflict Homes

The Real Problems with Shared Custody in High-Conflict Homes

I smell like strong black coffee and the hard reality of a courtroom where your feelings go to die. Your case is failing before you even walk through my door because you believe the court is a place for moral vindication. It is not. It is a machine that processes evidence and procedure. I watched…
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The Problem with Letting Your Kids Choose Who to Live With

The Problem with Letting Your Kids Choose Who to Live With

The air in my office usually smells like stale espresso and the chemical tang of laser-printed motions. It is the scent of litigation. I have sat across from hundreds of parents who believe that when they get a divorce, the child becomes the ultimate arbiter of their own fate. This is a delusion that can…
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Why You Should Never Take the Kids Out of State Unilaterally

Why You Should Never Take the Kids Out of State Unilaterally

Why You Should Never Take the Kids Out of State Unilaterally Sit down. Drink your coffee. You think you are being a protective parent by packing the SUV and crossing the border to your sister’s house in another state. You think you are escaping a toxic environment. You are actually handing your spouse the ammunition…
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Why You Should Keep a Log of Every Single Missed Visitation

Why You Should Keep a Log of Every Single Missed Visitation

The Brutal Truth About Your Custody Case I watched a client lose their entire claim in the first ten minutes of a deposition because they ignored one simple rule about silence. We were sitting in a cramped conference room that smelled of stale paper and desperation. The opposing counsel asked a simple question about the…
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The Reality of Proving Emotional Abuse in Family Court

The Reality of Proving Emotional Abuse in Family Court

I smell like strong black coffee and the recycled air of a windowless courtroom. I have spent twenty five years watching people walk into family court expecting a hug and a apology. They leave with a legal bill and a crushed spirit because they thought the truth would set them free. The truth is a…
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Why You Need a Temporary Custody Order Immediately

Why You Need a Temporary Custody Order Immediately

Why You Need a Temporary Custody Order Immediately The Brutal Truth-Teller persona here. I smell like strong black coffee and I am here to tell you that your divorce strategy is likely failing before you even step foot in the courtroom. If you are waiting for the final decree to decide where your children sleep,…
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Why You Need a Guardian Ad Litem for Your Children's Protection

Why You Need a Guardian Ad Litem for Your Children’s Protection

I watched a client lose their entire claim in the first ten minutes of a deposition because they ignored one simple rule about silence. They thought they could win by attacking the other parent’s character during a high-conflict divorce. Instead, they showed the court they were incapable of prioritizing their child. This is where the…
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